Two Very Different Choices: Chosen Family
Thankful Day: 1897-1960
Eugene Ingersall Day: 1898-1979
Jessie Florence Day Thiesse: 1902-1963
Sometimes I think I know exactly what I’m going to write as
I start work on a blog post, but then as I conduct additional research to confirm
my facts, I’ll discover new things that change my perspective on my ancestor’s
story, and change my entire approach to the prompt. “Chosen Family” turned out
to be one of those times. I thought I’d be writing about three children placed
in an orphanage, with the youngest eventually adopted by a relative—her chosen
family. But as I researched, I realized there were other choices and other
families involved in this story that made it far more complex.
Thankful Day, Eugene Day and Jessie Day are my third cousins
twice removed on the Mills/Dane branch of my family tree. The children were
born to Eugene Charles Day and his wife, Lucilla Reed in Tuolumne County,
California.
The California location in itself is interesting. Eugene was
born in Hermon, New York. He was one of five children, and three of his
siblings lived out their lives just miles from where they were born. However,
for some reason lost to history, Eugene and his sister Jessie Day, the two
youngest children in the family, decided to move to the rugged mining area of
Tuolumne County, California. Eugene became a miner, investing in quartz and
gold mines.
Eugene married a beautiful young woman from Tuolumne,
Lucilla Reed, in 1875 when he was only 19 years old; Lucilla was about 16. According
to a bio from Eugene’s Findagrave page, “Lucilla Reed was born in in Tuolumne
County in August 1859. Her mother Lajuana Weh nah yah, a Native American, was
born in Tuolumne County in 1845, and her father, David Millard Reed, was born
in New York in 1836.” Eugene and Lucilla’s first child, Thankful Anna (named
after Eugene’s mother Thankful Bennet Day), was not born until 1897, twenty-two
years after their marriage. Perhaps Lucilla had previous miscarriages or
stillbirths, but a twenty year span seems exceptional.
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Lucilla Reed Day |
Their second child, Eugene Ingersall, was born a year later
on the 4th of July. Their third child, Jesse (or Jessie) Florence Day,
was born four years later on March 24, 1902. Tragically, Lucilla died of heart
disease just eight weeks later. Eugene was left a widower, with an infant and
four- and five-year old children to care for, a difficult proposition for a
miner in his 40s who needed to be at the remote mine site for weeks at a time.
Although some family records suggest that Eugene’s ranchero
on Yankee Hill was home to several of Lucilla’s tribal members in addition to
their own nuclear family, none of Lucilla’s relatives took over caring for the
children. The reasons are unclear. Eugene instead chose to place his children
in the care of the nuns at the convent orphanage in Grass Valley, California,
while he continued to mine for gold. (Coincidentally, the orphanage is the same
one I discussed in my previous blog entry, where the unfortunate Reppert
children lived a decade later.)
At some point during Eugene’s twenty years in Tuolumne
County, his younger sister Jessie must have come out to visit him from New
York. While in the area, she met Frank Thisse, a salesman from Lovelock,
Nevada, who invested in several mines in Tuolumne County. He eventually became
Justice of the Peace in Skidoo, California, now a ghost town in Death Valley
National Park. They married and were living in the area when Lucilla died.
Jessie and Frank took baby Jessie Day in and raised her for several years—long
enough that when they sent her to the orphanage to join her siblings at some
point, the little child was registered as Jessie Thisse, as we see on the 1910
census. Little Jessie’s siblings appear on the same census under the surname
Day.
Another sort of separation must have taken place as well.
Despite the children being only one quarter Native American/Miwok, Thankful and
Eugene were identified in many documents as “Indian”. Jessie was identified as
“white”. This difference had repercussions.
At some point after the 1910 census, Thankful and Eugene
left the orphanage. The circumstances are unknown—did they run away? Did their
father reclaim them? Did their mother’s relatives claim them? Did they reach an
age that the orphanage expected them to leave and earn a living?
Eugene probably had few happy memories from his time there,
as he was seriously injured and expected to die after falling 17 feet from a
balcony with several other children on June 15, 1907. He received a skull
fracture, and the nuns had sent a letter to his father’s last known location at
Sonora, California, asking that he come to his nine-year-old son’s bedside.
Presumably Eugene recovered without any lasting effects, for as an adult, he
held a responsible position as a railway brakeman for forty years.
Eugene and Thankful apparently returned to the ranchero
where they were born, living with their mother’s relatives. They received
official recognition as tribal members, and Thankful actually served as the
secretary for the Miwok tribe when they received federal recognition as the
“Tuolumne Band of Me-wuk Indians from the Tuolumne Rancheria” in 1937.
When they married, they chose Native American spouses. Eugene
married a Miwok woman named Pearl Thompson. The couple had twelve children. They
lived in Tuolumne their entire lives, with Eugene working for the railroad. He
served in the military in World War I and was head of the local American Legion
Post. In addition, he served as the Indian Agent at the Tuolumne Rancheria in
the 1930s. Census records identify Eugene and his children as “Indian”.
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Me-wuk member farming on the Tuolumne Rancheria in 1920s |
Thankful first married Daniel B. Wilson in 1919, with whom
she had four children. He worked in the oil industry, and they lived in Santa
Barbara and Los Angeles. He was from an Arizona tribe. After his death, she
married Frederick Geisdorff, and moved back to the Me-Wuk Rancheria. Thankful
and Frederick had one son, Robert, in 1927. She became involved in tribal
affairs as well, serving as an officer in the tribal government during the
1930s. Census records also list her and her children as “Indian”.
The descendants of Eugene and Thankful remain active with
the tribe. Photos from recent Me-wuk celebrations feature Wilson, Geisdorff and
Day adults and children.
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Acorn Festival at Tuolumne Rancheria, with four Wilson and Day descendants |
Their little sister Jessie’s story is far different. She
remained in the orphanage until at least 1914, for she appears in a Grass
Valley news article as a musical performer in a concert at the orphanage. It
isn’t clear when she left; her Aunt Jessie Thisse and husband Frank moved back
to Frank’s hometown of Lovelock Nevada at some point after 1910. By 1919,
Jessie is living with them and attending high school in Lovelock. She played on
the basketball team and performed in the school opera in 1920, and is
identified as the Thisses’ daughter in news articles and the 1920 census. It is
unclear if the couple ever formally adopted her, however. When her aunt Jessie
Thisse died in 1929, Jessie Day is listed as her niece in the obituary.
Interestingly, the only other survivor listed is another niece from New York—no
mention of Thankful or Eugene.
Jessie married a high school classmate shortly after
graduation. Andrew Johnson was a mechanic, and the couple had five children
before Andrew’s untimely death at age 50 in 1954. Census records identify
Jessie and her children as white; no reference is made to her Miwok heritage.
Jessie then married a much younger man, Howard Lamp. She
also died quite young, at age 61, after what was described in the obituary as
“a long illness”.
It appears that once Thankful, Eugene and Jessie’s mother
died, the children took two very different paths in life. Thankful and Eugene
chose to identify with their mother’s Native American half of the family,
despite only being one quarter Miwok. They appear to have had some sort of limited
relationship with their father after they left the orphanage, for young Eugene
was listed as the contact person on his father’s death certificate. However,
neither of them appears to have had any relationship with their little sister.
Their obituaries and Findagrave biographies say that their parents had only two
children; they don’t even seem to recognize that she existed.
Jessie does not appear to have had any relationship with
Thankful or Eugene, or with her mother’s relatives. It is unclear how often she
or the Thisses saw her father, either. The Thisses had some mining business
connections with Eugene, so there must have been some contact. Jessie never
seemed to claim her Native American heritage. Her aunt and uncle, who became
her adoptive parents, however informally, seem to have kept her at a remove
from her mother’s people. She grew up as a white person, far from the Tuolumne
Rancheria. Once she relocated to Frank Thisse’s hometown of Lovelock, she left
her previous identity as Jessie Day behind.
So all three of these children chose their family. Thankful
and Eugene chose their Miwok relatives as their true family of the heart.
Jessie chose her white aunt and uncle as her family of the heart. It is
unfortunate that the choices the children made meant that they never formed a
close sibling relationship. Is this a story of “passing” as white? Were the
Thisses embarrassed by Eugene’s choice to marry a half-Miwok woman? Did Jessie
deliberately hide part of her heritage? Did her siblings deny her existence because they were angry with her choice to pass as white? We will never know.